Dear Dad,
I suppose it wasn’t always the advice that you gave me but just the way you let me vent and then made me feel like everything was going to be ok. What do I do now when I need to vent? I don’t want to dump on Aaron… I guess these letters will help. It always feels good to get things off your chest, even if it isn’t verbal. I try to think about what you would say and the easiest way to think about that is to think about what a biblical answer would be and how I continue to have and show God’s love through the situation. I feel like the smallest things get me emotional now though, but I know that is probably to be expected given the situation.
I was cleaning out my email today and found one that you had sent me, it wasn’t even anything really but seeing your name in my email made me miss your presence.
Did I tell you that we are going to go skydiving in July? Finally! It will be Aaron and I, Marcie and a couple other people. We’re all doing tandems. Joe is going to go up with us but they won’t let him connect with us in the air until like 500 jumps… so that isn’t happening anytime soon :) He is jumping your chute now, he said it is an amazing feeling. I just can’t wait to see what it was like for so many years of your life while we just sat on the ground watching you fly through the sky thinking how cool our parents were. Now it’s our turn to see what it’s all about. I cannot wait.
Love you Bunches,
Cassie Winnie
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Dream a Little Dream
Dear Dad,
This weekend we had our bachelor and bachelorette parties which were a lot of fun. But for some reason, in the midst of all the celebrating, I had a rough time emotionally. Maybe it was because normally I would come over the next day and tell you all about my day and how much fun us girls had and what I had heard about the guy’s day. You were the one I told everything to so perhaps not being able to do that anymore is what was bothering me. Or maybe it is starting to sink in that you aren’t here with us physically anymore. Today marks three weeks since you left us. I still feel like I can just go to your house and there you will be, sitting in your wheelchair watching the History Channel and using your handheld mouse to work on your computer and we can just pick up where we left off. I guess I am just missing your presence. I remember that we agreed that you would come visit me in my dreams and I am sure you are busy using your new legs and arms but anytime you want to visit me I would love to “see” you. I cannot wait to see you walking again, even if it is just in my dreams for now.
Marcie and I had a “date night” last night. She came over to Aaron’s and we started watching Boston Legal again where you and I had left off. It only seems right to finish the series and while we were watching it I kept thinking of watching it with you and it made me smile. Thinking about times like when there would normally be a commercial break if we had been watching it on TV you would say “Commercial” and then the show would pick back up because it is on DVD and there are no commercials and you would either say “that was quick” or “oh wait, there are none”. So of course I said it every time but Marcie didn’t seem to get annoyed, we both just smiled. That is my favorite thing to do, smile and laugh while remembering you. It’s going to be a busy few weeks since we only have 18 days until the wedding! I got something special for you, it’s a little picture frame pin that has a charm that says “dad” on it. I am going to put a picture of you in there and pin it to the ribbon on my bouquet so that you can still walk down the aisle with me :)
Love you bunches,
Cassie Winnie
This weekend we had our bachelor and bachelorette parties which were a lot of fun. But for some reason, in the midst of all the celebrating, I had a rough time emotionally. Maybe it was because normally I would come over the next day and tell you all about my day and how much fun us girls had and what I had heard about the guy’s day. You were the one I told everything to so perhaps not being able to do that anymore is what was bothering me. Or maybe it is starting to sink in that you aren’t here with us physically anymore. Today marks three weeks since you left us. I still feel like I can just go to your house and there you will be, sitting in your wheelchair watching the History Channel and using your handheld mouse to work on your computer and we can just pick up where we left off. I guess I am just missing your presence. I remember that we agreed that you would come visit me in my dreams and I am sure you are busy using your new legs and arms but anytime you want to visit me I would love to “see” you. I cannot wait to see you walking again, even if it is just in my dreams for now.
Marcie and I had a “date night” last night. She came over to Aaron’s and we started watching Boston Legal again where you and I had left off. It only seems right to finish the series and while we were watching it I kept thinking of watching it with you and it made me smile. Thinking about times like when there would normally be a commercial break if we had been watching it on TV you would say “Commercial” and then the show would pick back up because it is on DVD and there are no commercials and you would either say “that was quick” or “oh wait, there are none”. So of course I said it every time but Marcie didn’t seem to get annoyed, we both just smiled. That is my favorite thing to do, smile and laugh while remembering you. It’s going to be a busy few weeks since we only have 18 days until the wedding! I got something special for you, it’s a little picture frame pin that has a charm that says “dad” on it. I am going to put a picture of you in there and pin it to the ribbon on my bouquet so that you can still walk down the aisle with me :)
Love you bunches,
Cassie Winnie
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Memories
Dear Dad,
Sorry it has been a couple of days since we have talked, it has been a little busy lately because we only have 23 days left until the wedding!! I am getting soooo excited. It will be nice to start the next chapter in our lives together. We had our pre-marriage meeting with the Pastor last night and found out that our relationship is actually really healthy! So that is good :) It made me feel so blessed to talk to the pastor not only because I am going to have an amazing husband but because I had an amazing upbringing. Pastor Chris asked us a lot of questions on how we view family and what our goals are for the future of our family. So many of the things that I see and feel are important for our family were right in line with where they should be from a biblical standpoint. Most of what I believe is just based on the great childhood I had and what a great example I had to follow. Everything that I believe about family and marriage I have learned from you, dad. I know that you didn’t have the most perfect marriages but you learned over time how to perfect marriage, I just wish you had the chance to enjoy that with Seedie a little longer. You taught me how to be loving and understanding but to still be firm. I know that my life with Aaron and our future family is going to be great because of the example you set. You told me and showed me so much about how to treat the ones you love and how to treat children. I am so blessed that you’re my dad. It has made me more confident in getting married and I know that Aaron and I are going to be married until we are old and gray with lots of little grand kids to spoil.
It makes me smile to think about when we were kids. Almost all of my memories are with you. I love that we camped usually about twice every year. I cannot wait to take my kids camping!! And even though I always called you a dork when I was a kid, I secretly loved the fact that all my friends though, “your dad is sooo cool!”, which you were. I think it will be the same way with our kids someday. Do you remember the time that I had a birthday party sleepover? You were goofing off with all my friends and at one point you had locked yourself in your bedroom and were shoving your backscratcher under the door to get our feet or something. Then Lauren snatched it from you! We couldn’t find it for a couple days until one day you went into the refrigerator to get some ketchup or something and there it was, sitting in the door of the fridge. That is one of my favorite memories. My slumber parties wouldn’t have been the same without my dad teasing my friends :) Maybe I will save more stories for later. I get that from you, you know, telling stories. Even though I would roll my eyes when you would tell me the same thing for the eleventeenth time, I really did like it. It was one of your quirks that made you who you were and who you were makes me who I am. Who am I? I am the daughter of Phillip Joseph Thompson, the greatest dad ever.
Love you bunches,
Cassie Winnie
Sorry it has been a couple of days since we have talked, it has been a little busy lately because we only have 23 days left until the wedding!! I am getting soooo excited. It will be nice to start the next chapter in our lives together. We had our pre-marriage meeting with the Pastor last night and found out that our relationship is actually really healthy! So that is good :) It made me feel so blessed to talk to the pastor not only because I am going to have an amazing husband but because I had an amazing upbringing. Pastor Chris asked us a lot of questions on how we view family and what our goals are for the future of our family. So many of the things that I see and feel are important for our family were right in line with where they should be from a biblical standpoint. Most of what I believe is just based on the great childhood I had and what a great example I had to follow. Everything that I believe about family and marriage I have learned from you, dad. I know that you didn’t have the most perfect marriages but you learned over time how to perfect marriage, I just wish you had the chance to enjoy that with Seedie a little longer. You taught me how to be loving and understanding but to still be firm. I know that my life with Aaron and our future family is going to be great because of the example you set. You told me and showed me so much about how to treat the ones you love and how to treat children. I am so blessed that you’re my dad. It has made me more confident in getting married and I know that Aaron and I are going to be married until we are old and gray with lots of little grand kids to spoil.
It makes me smile to think about when we were kids. Almost all of my memories are with you. I love that we camped usually about twice every year. I cannot wait to take my kids camping!! And even though I always called you a dork when I was a kid, I secretly loved the fact that all my friends though, “your dad is sooo cool!”, which you were. I think it will be the same way with our kids someday. Do you remember the time that I had a birthday party sleepover? You were goofing off with all my friends and at one point you had locked yourself in your bedroom and were shoving your backscratcher under the door to get our feet or something. Then Lauren snatched it from you! We couldn’t find it for a couple days until one day you went into the refrigerator to get some ketchup or something and there it was, sitting in the door of the fridge. That is one of my favorite memories. My slumber parties wouldn’t have been the same without my dad teasing my friends :) Maybe I will save more stories for later. I get that from you, you know, telling stories. Even though I would roll my eyes when you would tell me the same thing for the eleventeenth time, I really did like it. It was one of your quirks that made you who you were and who you were makes me who I am. Who am I? I am the daughter of Phillip Joseph Thompson, the greatest dad ever.
Love you bunches,
Cassie Winnie
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Joy Comes With the Morning
Dear Dad,
It seems like nighttime is the most difficult. I don’t know if it is because of the darkness, or if it is because of the quiet, but that’s when I miss you the most. I just keep looking at your picture and thinking about how I can’t give you a hug or laugh with you or squeeze your hand anymore. This isn’t easy, but I know it will get better. Sometimes I want so badly not to be positive anymore. I don’t always want to put a smile on my face or even get out of bed in the morning. But if I did those things then your passing wouldn’t mean anything. If there is anything that I can take from your life it is your eternal optimism. That is one thing that everyone keeps talking about, how positive you always were. Even when you were slowly fading from this world, you just kept joking and smiling. “Don’t worry, be happy” is what you told me when I asked what I am going to do without you. So that is what I need to do. At a time when some people would think you would be the one needing comfort you were comforting all of us instead. I want to strive everyday to carry out that legacy for you, dad. To never complain, always smile and make people laugh. To lift others up and look beyond myself because that is what your life was about. I know that every night when you closed your eyes you could say you lived your life and you lived it for Christ. I want to be able to say that every day of my life. So, when it gets quiet and it’s dark outside and all I want to do is cry and give up, I will remember your life and what it meant. I will remember the peace that you had in your final weeks, days and hours. You never gave up and you never stopped being you; the person who could make others laugh instantly and could light up anyone’s day. I will remember that joy comes with the morning. You were always my rock, dad, even your physical body was no longer strong, even in your passing. I love you so much, dad, and will live every day to continue to make you proud. I know things will get better and I know I will become a stronger woman of God through all of this, but for now I am just going to continue to lean on you and on Christ.
Love you Bunches,
Cassie Winnie
PS – on a lighter note, we finalized the reception plans yesterday! We also started filling our party favors with candy. It is going to be so beautiful dad. In 30 days, your little girl will be a married woman :) I’m sure glad you love Aaron because I can't imagine anyone more perfect to take care of me for you.
It seems like nighttime is the most difficult. I don’t know if it is because of the darkness, or if it is because of the quiet, but that’s when I miss you the most. I just keep looking at your picture and thinking about how I can’t give you a hug or laugh with you or squeeze your hand anymore. This isn’t easy, but I know it will get better. Sometimes I want so badly not to be positive anymore. I don’t always want to put a smile on my face or even get out of bed in the morning. But if I did those things then your passing wouldn’t mean anything. If there is anything that I can take from your life it is your eternal optimism. That is one thing that everyone keeps talking about, how positive you always were. Even when you were slowly fading from this world, you just kept joking and smiling. “Don’t worry, be happy” is what you told me when I asked what I am going to do without you. So that is what I need to do. At a time when some people would think you would be the one needing comfort you were comforting all of us instead. I want to strive everyday to carry out that legacy for you, dad. To never complain, always smile and make people laugh. To lift others up and look beyond myself because that is what your life was about. I know that every night when you closed your eyes you could say you lived your life and you lived it for Christ. I want to be able to say that every day of my life. So, when it gets quiet and it’s dark outside and all I want to do is cry and give up, I will remember your life and what it meant. I will remember the peace that you had in your final weeks, days and hours. You never gave up and you never stopped being you; the person who could make others laugh instantly and could light up anyone’s day. I will remember that joy comes with the morning. You were always my rock, dad, even your physical body was no longer strong, even in your passing. I love you so much, dad, and will live every day to continue to make you proud. I know things will get better and I know I will become a stronger woman of God through all of this, but for now I am just going to continue to lean on you and on Christ.
Love you Bunches,
Cassie Winnie
PS – on a lighter note, we finalized the reception plans yesterday! We also started filling our party favors with candy. It is going to be so beautiful dad. In 30 days, your little girl will be a married woman :) I’m sure glad you love Aaron because I can't imagine anyone more perfect to take care of me for you.
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
I'll be ok now Daddy...
Dear Dad,
Today is the one week mark since you went to walk in heaven. It was a hard week, but I know the Lord has been giving me peace and strength through the whole week. We got to see a lot of friends on Friday. You sure are a loved man dad. You've impacted so many lives with your 56 years! There were lots of smiles and laughter when we all got to reminisce about you. There were tears too, lots of tears. Saturday we said our last “goodbyes” but you and I both know that is isn’t goodbye for some of us, it is just “see ya later” and I know I will. Joe gave a eulogy for you, and dad, it was amazing. I am sure you must have heard every word. I know you are, and always were, proud of him, of all of us. I just miss hearing your voice... Guess what? Uncle Tim came and he came to grandma’s church afterwards for the luncheon! Amazing right? I can see there are already good things happening from you leaving this world. I keep thinking about how many people came to see you over the past two weeks, at the hospital, in hospice and at the funeral home. I pray that I live my life in a way that I impact even half as many lives as you have.
I started writing this yesterday at work but ran out of time so I think I will finish it now :) Mom and I went shopping last night. She got her wedding outfit and I got my rehearsal dress. It seems so weird that you aren’t going to be there dad. I always dreamed of my wedding and dancing with you and crying with you as you gave me away. I know you will still be there and I know you love Aaron, it is just hard to not have you here with me. I love you so much dad. I had a hard time last night. We got a card from some of Aaron’s family that had a gift card in it to buy something to put in the house or yard to remember you by. Maybe I was just tired, but it really hit me and I cried all the way home. It’s funny, I started writing this letter talking about how much strength I’ve had, but I’m still your little girl daddy, I always will be. I just need a good cry once in a while. Besides, you know me, I’m the crybaby of the family :) I heard a song today that really makes me think about you. Aaron told me about the song about a year and half ago. It goes through a woman's life growing up and all the times she had to tell her daddy it was ok to let go. When she rode her first bike, when she got married and when her dad was lying in a hospital bed. All the times she had to be ok with him letting go and letting him know it. I know we talked before you left but I just want to tell you again, "it's gonna be a little bit scary, but I want you to know, I'll be ok now, daddy, you can let go". I hope you are having a lot of fun up there dad. Tell grandpa I said hi and enjoy walking in your new body :)
Love you bunches,
Cassie Winnie
Today is the one week mark since you went to walk in heaven. It was a hard week, but I know the Lord has been giving me peace and strength through the whole week. We got to see a lot of friends on Friday. You sure are a loved man dad. You've impacted so many lives with your 56 years! There were lots of smiles and laughter when we all got to reminisce about you. There were tears too, lots of tears. Saturday we said our last “goodbyes” but you and I both know that is isn’t goodbye for some of us, it is just “see ya later” and I know I will. Joe gave a eulogy for you, and dad, it was amazing. I am sure you must have heard every word. I know you are, and always were, proud of him, of all of us. I just miss hearing your voice... Guess what? Uncle Tim came and he came to grandma’s church afterwards for the luncheon! Amazing right? I can see there are already good things happening from you leaving this world. I keep thinking about how many people came to see you over the past two weeks, at the hospital, in hospice and at the funeral home. I pray that I live my life in a way that I impact even half as many lives as you have.
I started writing this yesterday at work but ran out of time so I think I will finish it now :) Mom and I went shopping last night. She got her wedding outfit and I got my rehearsal dress. It seems so weird that you aren’t going to be there dad. I always dreamed of my wedding and dancing with you and crying with you as you gave me away. I know you will still be there and I know you love Aaron, it is just hard to not have you here with me. I love you so much dad. I had a hard time last night. We got a card from some of Aaron’s family that had a gift card in it to buy something to put in the house or yard to remember you by. Maybe I was just tired, but it really hit me and I cried all the way home. It’s funny, I started writing this letter talking about how much strength I’ve had, but I’m still your little girl daddy, I always will be. I just need a good cry once in a while. Besides, you know me, I’m the crybaby of the family :) I heard a song today that really makes me think about you. Aaron told me about the song about a year and half ago. It goes through a woman's life growing up and all the times she had to tell her daddy it was ok to let go. When she rode her first bike, when she got married and when her dad was lying in a hospital bed. All the times she had to be ok with him letting go and letting him know it. I know we talked before you left but I just want to tell you again, "it's gonna be a little bit scary, but I want you to know, I'll be ok now, daddy, you can let go". I hope you are having a lot of fun up there dad. Tell grandpa I said hi and enjoy walking in your new body :)
Love you bunches,
Cassie Winnie
May 10, 2010
Dear Dad,
I miss you so much already. It is hard knowing that I can’t see you physically anymore but I know that you are still here. Every day I have been trying to make decisions based on what you would think is best. I have been trying to help Marcie make better decisions but it is quite the undertaking. We fought even today and you haven’t even been gone a week yet. I feel like I have to watch out for her now that you aren’t around to do that anymore. I know that she relied on you a lot dad. I know this is going to be a hard road for her to travel. I just want so badly for her to turn her life around. I think that as long as she continues to do what she is doing now that may not happen. I want her to take advice from people that are better off in life and who have made good decisions to get where they are. But I think she would rather take advice from someone who has spent most of his adult life in jail. I just don’t know what to do sometimes. I have been asking Joe for advice a lot because he is better at giving it than he realizes. He wants me to stop getting my emotions invested in her and to realize that there is nothing that we can do to change her and to let her figure it out. It is just hard to try to not want the best for her. Why is it that I have to feel like her big sister when I am younger than her? She told me today that I live a “catered life”… I guess it’s hard to see past that when you have a poor mentality, she can’t see that I have worked hard and been through a lot to get to where I am at in life.
I will miss you tonight. I would normally get out of work and cruise over to pick you up and bring you to res for healing rooms. It will be weird not doing that anymore. It will be weird to not have that time in the car bouncing ideas off of you and asking you questions about life… and about Marcie… It will be weird not watching Boston Legal, House, American Pickers, Pawn Stars and Operation Repo with you :) But I have had so many great memories from the past couple years I was privileged to spend more time with you. And since I can’t converse with you anymore, I think writing to you will make me feel better. I don’t know what heaven is like. I don’t know if we get there and become a little like God in that we can hear what people are thinking or watch their everyday lives, but I sure hope that you can “hear” these conversations I am typing to you. I know that you still love us but I am glad that you are finally home. I miss you daddy.
Love you bunches,
Cassie Winnie
I miss you so much already. It is hard knowing that I can’t see you physically anymore but I know that you are still here. Every day I have been trying to make decisions based on what you would think is best. I have been trying to help Marcie make better decisions but it is quite the undertaking. We fought even today and you haven’t even been gone a week yet. I feel like I have to watch out for her now that you aren’t around to do that anymore. I know that she relied on you a lot dad. I know this is going to be a hard road for her to travel. I just want so badly for her to turn her life around. I think that as long as she continues to do what she is doing now that may not happen. I want her to take advice from people that are better off in life and who have made good decisions to get where they are. But I think she would rather take advice from someone who has spent most of his adult life in jail. I just don’t know what to do sometimes. I have been asking Joe for advice a lot because he is better at giving it than he realizes. He wants me to stop getting my emotions invested in her and to realize that there is nothing that we can do to change her and to let her figure it out. It is just hard to try to not want the best for her. Why is it that I have to feel like her big sister when I am younger than her? She told me today that I live a “catered life”… I guess it’s hard to see past that when you have a poor mentality, she can’t see that I have worked hard and been through a lot to get to where I am at in life.
I will miss you tonight. I would normally get out of work and cruise over to pick you up and bring you to res for healing rooms. It will be weird not doing that anymore. It will be weird to not have that time in the car bouncing ideas off of you and asking you questions about life… and about Marcie… It will be weird not watching Boston Legal, House, American Pickers, Pawn Stars and Operation Repo with you :) But I have had so many great memories from the past couple years I was privileged to spend more time with you. And since I can’t converse with you anymore, I think writing to you will make me feel better. I don’t know what heaven is like. I don’t know if we get there and become a little like God in that we can hear what people are thinking or watch their everyday lives, but I sure hope that you can “hear” these conversations I am typing to you. I know that you still love us but I am glad that you are finally home. I miss you daddy.
Love you bunches,
Cassie Winnie
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